Real Weddings

Six years ago, Adam and Shelley had a chance meeting on the dancefloor of a pub. Shelley admired Adam because, as the tallest man on the dance floor, he was the only one she could see clearly. Adam too was drawn to Shelley’s height and brunette hair. Shelley ended up going home early but not before swapping numbers. They organised a second meeting at the same pub a week later but Adam didn’t even recognise Shelley. He walked straight past her. Despite the slow start, they discovered they loved spending time in each other’s company. 

In the early days, when they began having sleepovers, they used to stay up late into the night, getting to know each other, wrestling and singing Kid Cudi songs. In 2011 they moved in together, spurred on by the lack of heating in the house Adam was renting at the time. Nowadays, they still spend a lot of time wrestling but they also enjoy spending their time playing with their dogs, going to zoos and socialising with friends.

They have a mutual love of travel which led to a 6 month expedition around the world to Europe, South America and Asia, on which Adam proposed in Mexico in May 2014. On return they bought some land to build a house and then promptly sold it the next year! It takes some real communication and honesty to navigate a tricky situation like that, but they feel stronger as a couple because of it. They are not sure where exactly their future will be, but they are on the same page for their hopes for the future: start a family, travel more, buy a house with a big shed for Adam and a pool for Shelley, and even start a business one day.

Shelley loves that Adam is kind, patient and understanding. She thinks he is the funniest man she’s ever met. She loves that he doesn’t try to stop her from sharing her opinions or standing up for what she thinks is right. She appreciates his adventurous nature and loves the way he holds her hand in the car.

Adam loves that Shelley is always willing to play along in his games and share movie quotes with him. He loves the way she cares for him when he is sick or upset. He loves to hear her sing and see her passionately involved in her interests and hobbies. Most of all, he loves that he can be as silly as he likes and know that she will never love him less.  

It’s these things and so much more, which has led this wonderful couple to this day.

Thea and Conor met in scouts as part of the Donnybrook Venturer Group. Funnily enough, they did make their confirmation together many years prior. Conor doesn’t remember it but Thea remembers Conor being the tall one with the bowl hair cut at the front of Donnybrook Church!

Thea said she knew from the first time they met that something would happen with Conor. Make no mistake though: theirs was a slow burn. They were friends for a long time (approx. 3 years) before they kissed. The next time they kissed was after their graduation and it was another few months after that, whilst volunteering with the Venturers in Peru, before they agreed to go out with each other. Their courtship was long and meaningful, sensitive and full of love and growth together.

Conor says that he knew early on that he had found something special in Thea. She approaches everything in life from a different angle. In Conor’s words, Thea has always been her own woman: incredibly strong, rare, unique, different and brilliant.

Thea’s first impression of Conor was that he was full of energy and enthusiasm, with a passion for exploring and spontaneity. She admired his ability to make people feel welcome and included. He transcended the cliques that naturally formed, and everyone was a potential friend, be they a foreign scout, or an old person looking for a chat. In her words, he is the most kind, friendly, empathetic and caring person she knows, and very importantly, he is Conchubar [Cruh-uur] lover of hounds.

I asked them when they knew they were in love. Conor admitted that he had known for a long time but was afraid to say it, lest it wasn’t said back. He needn’t have worried because the night of Thea’s debs she told him she loved him.

Conor describes Thea as being remarkably strong willed, with an intrinsic sense of what’s right and she sticks to her guns on it. She isn’t afraid to make unpopular or hard choices. Thea is also very sensitive. She cares a lot and knows how to make Conor feel happy and loved.

Thea loves that Conor is a mix of being an old soul whilst also being full of energy and the hope of youth. He has an amazing sense of social justice and really wants to make a difference. He inspires her.

To say they share a love of adventure is an understatement. Exploring runs deep in them both. They have the same appreciation for light, nature and the planet. Together they will continue to discover new places and to have many more adventures, starting with their honeymoon cycling around Italy next week.