How to Chose the Best Music for Your Wedding Ceremony
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Introduction
Ah, wedding ceremony music – the ultimate mood-maker for your big day! When you’re strutting down that aisle, feeling like a million bucks, what’s playing in the background? Maybe it’s the soft strumming of a guitar or some upbeat tunes that have everyone tapping their toes. Each song tells a story and stirs up different emotions.
Now, why does music matter so much? Well, it’s not just about getting the party started (though that’s definitely a plus!). Nope, it’s about setting the scene, reflecting who you are as a couple, and getting your guests in the right headspace. Whether you’re going for romance, classic vibes, or something totally out there, your music should be a mirror of your personalities – it’s about creating an atmosphere that’s all about you two.
So, when you’re picking out your playlist, think about the vibe you want to create. Do you want your guests to feel relaxed, ready to party, or maybe a little teary-eyed? Whatever it is, music is your wingman, setting the tone and getting everyone in the mood to celebrate. So go ahead, put a little extra thought into it – trust me, your wedding will be better off because of it.
How to Choose Your Wedding Ceremony Music
Let’s dive into the exciting world of choosing your wedding music, step by step.
1. Understand the Basics
First things first, familiarise yourself with the basics of wedding music. Get acquainted with the key moments of your ceremony, like the processional (entrance), recessional (exit), and any interludes or special performances. Knowing these elements will help you structure your music choices effectively.
2. Don’t Google it
So, you’re on the hunt for the perfect wedding music, but before you hit that search button, here’s a little insider tip: try not to rely solely on Google. Sure, it’s tempting to type in “wedding music” and see what pops up, but chances are you’ll end up with a barrage of 80s hits and nothing that really speaks to you. Instead, tap into your own memories and experiences as a couple. Remember those early days of dating, the kitchen dance parties, the concerts you went to and those long road trips? Those moments are gold mines for finding songs that truly resonate with you and your partner.
Your love story is unique, so why not let your music reflect that? Take a trip down memory lane and consider songs that hold special meaning for you and your partner. Whether it’s the song that played during your first date or the track you danced to on your anniversary, incorporating these personal touches will make your ceremony even more memorable.
3. Consider the Lyrics
As you sift through your mental jukebox, keep in mind the lyrics of each song you’re considering. It’s easy to get caught up in a catchy melody, but don’t forget to pay attention to the lyrics too. Take the time to read through the words, making sure they align with the sentiments you want to express on your wedding day. Sure, that Bon Iver track Skinny Love might sound dreamy, but upon closer inspection, you might realise it’s about a love that’s more tumultuous than tender.
4. Choose a Theme
Think about the overall theme or vibe you want to create for your wedding. Are you going for classic elegance, rustic charm, or modern romance? Your music can play a big role in setting the tone, so choose songs that complement your chosen theme and enhance the ambiance you’re aiming for. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box. Acoustic or instrumental versions of popular songs can add a unique twist to your playlist, transforming even the most unlikely tracks into wedding-worthy hits. Just take a look at Drake’s “Hold On, We’re Going Home” given new life by the Arctic Monkeys or Tinie Tempah’s “Written in the Stars” in acoustic form. Trust me, YouTube is a treasure trove of acoustic covers that can turn any song into a wedding gem.
5. Think About the Feeling
Lastly, consider the emotions you want to evoke with your music choices. Do you want your guests to feel swept away by romance, filled with joy and laughter, or maybe even a little nostalgic? By thinking about the feelings you want to create, you can select songs that resonate with both you and your guests, ensuring that every note adds to the magic of your special day.
Now, armed with your memories, a critical eye for lyrics, and a penchant for acoustic vibes, it’s time to get down to business. Follow the steps outlined – understand the basics, connect your song choices to memories, check the lyrics, choose a theme, and thinking about the feelings you want to evoke – and you’ll be well on your way to curating a wedding music playlist that’s as unique unforgettable.
Choosing Music for Key Moments
There are usually four occasions that you’ll need to choose music for:
Music before the Ceremony Starts, as Guests Arrive
Most guests in Australia arrive 20 mins before the ceremony start time. You’ve likely spent a motza on your wedding, so it’s important to make a good first impression. The styling and the music on arrival will do this. They are key for setting the vibe.
You don’t have to have music before the ceremony, but silence is not always golden. What could be more uncomfortable than a large group of people sitting silently waiting for the wedding ceremony to begin? Generally something acoustic or pop-y works well pre-ceremony. Think the ‘afternoon acoustic’ playlist in Spotify. The person walking down the aisle won’t actually hear this music, so why not give this job to the other partner to choose the playlist? They could choose songs that they love, something to calm the nerves or hype themselves up. No-one says it has to be romantic music.
If you have song choice fatigue after choosing the other ceremony music, the first dance song, the reception entrance song etc. and you just don’t have the time or headspace to think about pre-ceremony music too, don’t worry! Your celebrant should have a good pre-ceremony playlist they can play, so you don’t have to spend any energy thinking about it if you don’t want to.
Walking-in Song(s)/Processional
You’ve got a few options when it comes to the tunes for your big entrance!
You can go with one song for everyone in the bridal squad, whether it’s a mix of page boys, flower girls, flower dudes, or even flower grannies, plus the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and the couple themselves. Or you can mix it up and have different songs for each group.
Some couples go for one track for the squad and another for the main duo walking down the aisle. And speaking of duos, some couples stroll in together while others make their entrance separately.
Traditionally, couples lean towards something romantic for this music, but hey, it’s your show! Want to strut in to ‘I Like Big Buts’ or ‘Another One Bites the Dust’? Totally your call.
If you want to come into view at a specific point in the song or want to hit the top of the aisle precisely when the song hits that perfect note, it’s going to take a bit of practising. The day before the wedding, spend some time in the space doing a rehearsal of the walking in to nail that timing.
And here’s a pro tip: ask your music operator to fade out as you reach the aisle’s end. It’s a smoother than coming to an abrupt stop.
The Signing Song
This part of the ceremony music might not be the star of the show, but it serves an essential purpose. It’s like background music that sets the vibe for some relaxed chatter among your guests. They’re half-engaged in watching you sign, half-engrossed in discussing what an incredible ceremony it’s been. The song is just there, softly playing in the background, allowing everyone to unwind a bit. You definitely don’t want your guests feeling like they’re in a stiff, formal setting: it’s about creating a warm and inviting atmosphere for everyone to enjoy.
I’m usually lightning-fast with signings—I’ve got those certificates prepopulated with the witnesses’ names, and I’ve got the moves to make it happen swiftly. One song usually does the trick, but if you’re the type who likes to play it safe, why not opt for two signing songs? That way, you’ve got some musical backup just in case things take a tad longer than expected.
If you decide to conduct your signing away from the eyes of your guests, with just you and your witnesses, then a song wouldn’t be necessary.
Walking Out/Recessional Song
This song is a big deal—it sets the tone for the celebration! It’s all about capturing that post-“I do” euphoria and spreading it to your guests. You’ll practically float down the aisle because you’re bursting with joy from just tying the knot. This tune needs to be pure upliftment, the kind that makes you want to break into a spontaneous dance. It’s the signal to your guests that the party is about to kick into high gear! So, it’s got to start with a bang—no time to waste on slow intros. If need be, the DJ or whoever’s handling the music might have to fast-forward to the good stuff to get everyone in the right mood pronto.
Group Song
A fantastic way to infuse even more musical magic into your wedding ceremony is by including a group song. There’s something incredibly special about getting your guests involved and having them belt out a tune together.
I once had the pleasure of officiating a Brazilian + Aussie wedding outdoors, and just as luck would have it, it started to rain – and I mean pour. With no Plan B in sight, the bride and groom decided to embrace the moment and lead their guests in a heartfelt rendition of ‘All You Need is Love’ by the Beatles. As the rain came down, we all stood there, drenched but filled with joy, singing our hearts out. Let me tell you, it was a moment I’ll never forget! That group song completely lifted the mood and brought everyone together in a beautiful display of love and unity.
So, if you’re looking for a surefire way to create unforgettable memories and get your guests in the spirit of celebration, consider adding a group song to your ceremony – trust me, you won’t regret it!
Working with a DJ or Band or Using the Celebrant’s PA system
When it comes to setting the musical stage for your wedding ceremony, one of the first decisions you’ll need to make is whether to opt for live music or utilise your celebrant’s PA system.
Live Music
Having live music performed by skilled musicians can truly transform the atmosphere of your ceremony, infusing it with a touch of enchantment that lingers in the memories of all who attend. It’s an immersive experience, where guests become part of the emotional journey, sharing in the highs and lows of the moment. And let’s not forget the infectious energy and enthusiasm that a live band brings, adding an extra layer of jubilation to your special day.
Now, the fun part: choosing the right live music that matches your vibe and preferences. You might lean towards the classic elegance of instruments like the harp, flute, or violin, or perhaps you’re drawn to a more contemporary sound, like a singer paired with a guitar or a full band rocking out. Whatever your style, the key is selecting what feels most authentic to you and your partner’s vision for the ceremony.
And here’s the good news: most musicians are more than willing to learn your favorite song, even if it’s not in their usual repertoire. And if you have a specific version of a song in mind, sung by a particular artist, don’t fret. Musicians are usually happy to download and perform it live, ensuring your ceremony sounds exactly how you’ve always imagined.
Of course, I understand that live music may not always fit within every couple’s budget. But fear not! There are still ways to incorporate musical magic into your ceremony without breaking the bank. Consider asking a talented friend or family member to lend their musical talents for the occasion. Whether it’s strumming a guitar or serenading with their vocals, having someone close to you perform can add a deeply personal touch to your ceremony.
Celebrant’s PA System
Now, let’s dive into the celebrant’s PA system—a savvy choice for couples seeking a budget-friendly alternative to live music. Many celebrants, like yours truly, offer the convenience of downloading the music onto a designated device. Then, we’ll walk you nominated roadie through how to operate it, ensuring everything runs smoothly on the big day.
DJ
And finally, if you’re considering a DJ for your reception, many DJs also offer the service of playing ceremony music. This means you won’t have to worry about assigning the job to a guest– your DJ will take care of everything, seamlessly transitioning from ceremony to reception with ease.
So whether you opt for the elegance of live music, the simplicity of a PA system, or the convenience of a DJ, rest assured that there’s a perfect musical solution out there to suit your needs and budget.
Wedding Singer/Band/DJ Recommendations
For a list of wedding entertainers I recommend in Newcastle and the Hunter, see my Little Black Book.
Dos and Don’ts of Choosing Wedding Ceremony Music
Crafting the perfect ambiance for your wedding ceremony can be a bit tricky, especially when it comes to choosing the right music. Let’s delve into some dos and don’ts to ensure your wedding ceremony music sets the tone just right.
Do Start Early
Begin exploring your musical preferences well in advance. This allows you to carefully curate a playlist that resonates with both you and your partner.
Do Reflect Your Personalities
Your wedding music should be a reflection of your personalities and the atmosphere you wish to create. Whether you’re into classical melodies, modern tunes, or a fusion of both, let your music speak volumes about your journey together.
Do consult with Professionals
Seek guidance from your celebrant, musicians, DJ, or wedding planner. They can offer valuable insights and recommendations based on their expertise and experience.
Do Incorporate Meaningful Songs
Infuse your ceremony with songs that hold sentimental value. Whether it’s the melody that played during your first date or a track that encapsulates your love story, incorporating meaningful songs adds an extra layer of emotion to your special day.
Don’t Ignore Volume Levels
Avoid overpowering your ceremony with excessively loud music. Strike a balance between setting the mood and allowing for conversation among guests, ensuring that everyone can enjoy the melodies without strain.
Don’t Forget about Timing
Timing is key when it comes to wedding ceremony music. Coordinate with your musicians or DJ or volunteer roadie to ensure that each song begins and ends at the right moment.
Don’t Underestimate the Power of Live Wedding Ceremony Music
While recorded music offers convenience, live performances can elevate the ambiance of your ceremony to new heights. Consider incorporating live musicians or vocalists to add create an elevated experience if you can afford it.
Popular Wedding Songs
Ah, let’s address the elephant in the room – that one wedding song we’ve all heard a thousand times (pun intended). Yes, I’m talking about “A Thousand Years” by Christina Perri. Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s a classic for a reason – but let’s just say most wedding vendors can practically sing it in their sleep by now. So, how about we give “A Thousand Years” a well-deserved break and let some other tunes have the spotlight?!
Some wedding ceremony music to get you started
If you’re feeling a bit lost and unsure about where to begin with your wedding ceremony music choices, I’ve got your back. Below, I’ve listed a few songs to get the brainstorming started. Keep in mind, though, that music is as personal as it gets, so it’s totally okay if my picks don’t quite match your vibe. Just remember, regardless of our musical differences, I’m still the celebrant for you!
Adore – Amy SharkAgnes Obel – Philharmonics (instrumental)
Aint Nobody (loves me better) – Jasmine Thompson
All of You- Busby Marou
Angels – The XX
Baby I’m Yours – Breakbot
Be Mine – Alabama Shakes
Better Man – Pearl Jam
Better Together – Jack Johnson
Big Jet Plane – Angus and Julia Stone
Big Jet Plane- Angus & Julia Stone
Blackbird – The Beatles
Blue light – Bloc Party
Bubbly- Colbie Caillat
Can’t Do Without You – Caribou
Can’t Help Falling in Love – Hearts and Colours
Cinema – (Skrillex Remix) [feat. Gary Go]
Cupid – Sam Cooke
Damaged – Primal Scream
Dirty Paws – Of Monsters and Men
Dissolve Me – Alt-J
Don’t Let Go – Weezer
Don’t Worry Be Happy – Bobby McFerrin
Essence- Lucind Williams
Everlong – Foo Fighters
Fall at Your Feet – Boy and Bear
Fell In Love With a Girl – White Stripes
First Day of My Life – Bright Eyes
Fix you – Cold Play
Fresh Eyes – Andy Grammar
Get Good (infinitefreefall remix) – St South
Get Lucky – Daft Punk
God Only Knows – The Beach Boys
Groovin Slowly – John Butler Trio
Harvest Moon – Neil Young
Heart Beats Slow – Angus and Julia Stone
Heartbeats- José González
Here Comes Your Man – Pixies
Ho Hey- Lumineers
Hold – Vera Blue
Husky – Forever So
I found a Reason – The Velvet Underground
I Need My Girl – The National
I remember – Deadmau5 & Kaskade
I Walk the Line – Johnny Cash
I Wanna Be Yours – Arctic Monkeys
I will follow you into the dark- Death Cab for Cu
I’m in Love- Cash Savage and the last drinks
It Gets Better – The Preatures
It’s Alright, It’s OK – Primal Scream
January Wedding – I and Love and You – The Avett Brothers
King and Cross – Asgeir
Kings and Queens – Daniel Lee Kendall (acoustic guitar)
Kiss Me – Ed Sheeran
Let’s Get It On – Marvin Gaye
Lost in the moment – Daniel Lee Kendall
Love Shack – The B-52s
Lover – San Cisco
Magic Carpet Ride – Steppenwolf
Make the World Safe For You – The Whitlams
Marry Song – Band of Horses
Mess is Mine- Vance Joy
Monday – Matt Corby
My People – Presets
Never Gonna Give You Up – Hannah Trigwell
Never Tear Us Apart – INXS
Peaches and Cream – John Butler
Rather Be – Jasmine Thompson
Rip Tide – Vance Joy
Rivers and Roads- The Head and the Heart
Romeo & Juliet- Dire Straits
Save Me- Goyte
Saved – Khalid
Saw You First- Givers
Say You Will – Hearts and Colours
Skinny Love – Bon Iver
So Good To Me – Chris Malinchak
Something About Us – Daft Punk
Something About Us – Daft Punk
Stay Close – Flume
Stolen away on 55th and 3rd – Dave Matthews Band
Straight to You – Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds
Surprise Yourself – Jack Garrett
Surprise Yourself- Jack Garratt
Sweet Disposition – Temper Trap
Sweet Disposition – The Temper Trap
The Songbird – Fleetwood Mac
These Arms of Mine – Otis Redding
Thinkin’ Bout You – Frank Ocean
This Old Love – Lior
Three Little Birds – Bob Marley
Two is Better than One- Boys Like Girls
Two of us on the Run- Lucius
Until Death do them part- Paul Kelly, Uncle Bill
Uptown Funk – Mark Ronson (feat. Bruno Mars)
Walking On a Dream – Empire of the Sun
Wandering Star – Portishead
Wedding Song – Angus & Julia Stone
What A Man – Salt N Pepa
With You Around- Yellowcard
With You Forever – PNAU
Wonderwall – Oasis
You always make me smile- Kyle Andrews
You’ve Got the Love – Florence and the Machine
Young and Beautiful – Lana Del Rey
Young Folks – Peter, Bjorn and John
Wedding Ceremony Music Spotify Playlists
I’ve put all my song suggestions into two Spotify playlists to make it super-easy for you to listen to.
Consider These! Wedding Ceremony Walking-In Songs – Julie Muir Celebrant
Consider These! Wedding Ceremony Walking-Out Songs – Julie Muir Celebrant
Conclusion- Best Wedding Ceremony Music
In wrapping up, selecting the right music for your wedding ceremony isn’t just about picking a few tunes – it’s about crafting an experience that’s uniquely yours. Whether you’re singing along with a live duo or keeping it simple with a celebrant’s PA system, each choice comes with its own set of considerations.
But here’s the bottom line: your wedding music should reflect who you are as a couple and the vibe you want to create on your big day. Whether you’re into classic hits, modern artists, or something totally off-the-wall, the key is to make sure it feels right for you.
So, as you dive into the world of wedding playlists, remember the power that music holds to bring people together, to stir up emotions, and to make memories that last a lifetime.
Let your music be the soundtrack to your love story, filling your ceremony with all the feels and setting the stage for a day you’ll never forget.
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