Why it’s OK to Cry During Your Wedding Ceremony
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Introduction
Whether you normally bawl at the drop of a hat or can’t even shed a tear during The Notebook, there’s a good chance that you might cry on your wedding day.
So many couples confide in me (as their celebrant) that they are worried about crying during the ceremony, as they feel it’s a bit embarrassing. I disagree completely. There ain’t no shame or embarrassment in crying on your wedding day. Shedding a few tears just shows that you understand how important this milestone really is.
Why do people cry at weddings?
Weddings are inherently emotional events. It’s a day when two people publicly declare their commitment to each other, surrounded by their loved ones. It’s a momentous occasion so it’s natural for emotions to run high.
The reason for the tears is usually a mix of happiness, letting go and moving on to another stage of life. You’re expressing your love in front of others, and celebrating your relationship—that can certainly get tears to flow in even the most hardened personality!
I’ve seen so many people swear to me in ceremony planning meetings that they won’t cry, only to bawl on the day, and I love it.
Crying as a Symbol of Transition
Tears at weddings are not just tears—they’re the overflow of joy that fills your heart to the brim. It’s like your emotions just can’t be contained, and they spill out in tears of happiness.
Crying at weddings isn’t just about joy; it’s also about letting go of the past and embracing change. It’s like saying goodbye to the old and diving headfirst into the new adventure together. It’s bittersweet, leaving behind what’s familiar but also exciting to step into the unknown.
So, when you shed those tears, it’s like shedding your old skin and embracing a fresh start. It’s a moment of release and renewal, honouring the past while eagerly embracing the future. That’s the beauty of crying at weddings—it’s a beautiful transition, marking the start of something new and wonderful.
The Beauty of Crying at Your Wedding
The bit I love the most is that when you start tearing up, chances are, others will too. It’s like this contagious wave of feels that sweeps through the crowd. Trust me, you won’t be crying solo.
In fact, I reckon you’re giving your guests a real gift. Think about it—how often do you get to let it all out in a safe, open space? Your wedding’s the ultimate emotional playground, where everyone can let loose and feel alive.
It’s like tapping into this raw, genuine emotion that connects us all. It’s a reminder of the crazy love we share and the awesome human experience we’re all a part of.
Jordyn + Kurtis | Gracelands, Central Coast | Margan Photography
Don’t pressure your partner to cry
Not shedding tears doesn’t diminish the significance of the moment in any way. In fact, it might just indicate the person is feeling relaxed and content. After all, each person has their own unique way of expressing emotions, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to it.
It’s essential not to add unnecessary pressure on your partner or yourself to cry just because it’s a wedding day. With all the other aspects to consider and the natural nerves that come with such an event, the last thing anyone needs is extra pressure on their emotional response.
Common Moments that Trigger Tears During Your Wedding
The Processional (The Walking-in)
Ah, the wedding whirlwind—so much hustle and bustle, it’s easy to forget to take a moment for the feels. But when that processional music kicks in, it’s like the universe hits pause, and suddenly, it’s just you, your partner, and all those emotions crashing in like a tidal wave. My advice? Keep those peepers locked on your partner and dive headfirst into whatever emotions come flooding in. Lean into it—it’s all part of the beautiful, messy magic of the big day!
The Personalised Vows
If you and your partner have written your own personalised vows, get ready for the waterworks! This part of the ceremony tends to tug at heartstrings—yours, your partner’s, and pretty much everyone in attendance. Vows are promises, after all, and this exchange is all about pledging to love and support each other through thick and thin. So, expect some tears when you’re pouring your heart out or listening to your partner do the same.
Now, if you’re worried about turning into a blubbering mess mid-vow, fret not. It’s perfectly okay to get emotional—it just means your words are coming straight from the heart. Plus, the more you rehearse your vows, the smoother it’ll go, even if you do start shedding a few tears.
Oh, and here’s a tip: sprinkle in a mix of heartfelt and funny vows to keep things balanced. You know, add a little light to the teary-eyed moments. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between sincerity and humour—the perfect recipe for a memorable ceremony!
The LOVE Story
When it comes down to the legal nitty-gritty, all celebrants essentially provide the same service. But what truly sets the best celebrants apart is their ability to create an unforgettable experience—one that leaves you and your guests feeling absolutely engaged and in the moment.
It’s a bit like capturing lightning in a bottle. That special something that makes you feel like you’re part of something truly electric and magical. The best celebrants have this uncanny knack for tuning into the energy of the crowd and dialing up the vibes to eleven.
Not everyone has the gift of spinning a love story in a way that’s both captivating and genuine. It’s a delicate dance, walking the line between dull and over-the-top. But the cream of the crop celebrants, with years of experience like me, know exactly how to strike that perfect balance.
They create a space where emotions flow freely—a rollercoaster ride of laughter, tears, and everything in between. Because let’s face it, your love story deserves nothing less than to be felt in all its glorious highs and heartstring-tugging lows.
Crying and Wedding Superstitions
Weddings are a delightful blend of tradition and superstition. Different cultures have their own unique take on the significance of shedding those happy tears.
Take Italians and Greeks, for example—they see tears as a surefire sign of love and fertility, ushering in all the good vibes for a blissful marriage ahead. But in Japanese and Chinese traditions, crying’s considered a bit of a taboo, believed to invite in some of bad juju.
Every couple I marry, not matter what their background seem to be on the same page… they’re all about embracing the feels. In today’s world, most people view tears as nothing but pure, unadulterated expressions of love. Superstitions aside, those tears speak volumes about the depth of emotion shared between two people, and that’s something to celebrate, no matter what.
How to Handle it if you Cry During Your Wedding
Crying during your wedding is entirely natural and can even add to the beauty and authenticity of the moment. Here are some tips to help you navigate those tears with grace:
1. Embrace the Feels
Why hold back? Let those tears flow—it’s all part of the ride. Your wedding day’s a big deal, filled with love and joy, so soak it all in.
2. Let it Out
No need to play tough. Feel it all, from the happy tears to the nostalgic ones. It’s your moment, after all—let the emotions roll.
3. Focus on Your Boo
When the waterworks start, lock eyes with your partner. Hold their hand tight and share the moment. Trust me, it’ll bring you even closer.
4. Use Humour to Lighten the Mood
If you find yourself getting too emotional, don’t be afraid to use humour to lighten the mood. Crack a joke, reminisce a funny memory, or simply laugh at the situation.
5. Prep Like a Pro
If you’re the teary type, no sweat. Practice some deep breaths, visualise staying cool as a cucumber—whatever helps you stay chill when the feels hit.
6. Tissue Time
Last but not least, stash some tissues or a hanky in your pocket. You never know when the waterworks will start, so be ready.
Conclusion- Why it’s ok to cry during your wedding
Hey, listen up! On your big day, I’m all for letting those emotions rip—whether you’re shedding tears of joy or busting out laughing.
And hey, if you get something in your eye, no worries! With a top-notch photographer that little mishap could turn into a killer photo op!
In the end, crying at your wedding? It’s totally fiiiiiinnnnnne! Tears are just another way of showing how deep your love runs.
So, when those tears start flowing, embrace ’em. Soak up every second, and let your heart lead the way.
They’re not a sign of weakness; they’re a symbol of pure joy, a farewell to the past, and a big ol’ hello to the next chapter of your life. It’s all part of the magic that makes weddings so special.
Here’s to love, laughter, and living happily ever after!
If you enjoyed this blog, you should definitely explore some of my other articles. If you’re tying the knot in Newcastle, the Hunter Valley, Central Coast, or Port Stephens, chances are I’ve covered a wedding there. Dive into my collection of real weddings for some serious inspiration. Plus, I’ve got tons of practical advice to help you navigate every aspect of your big day. So, don’t miss out—there’s a wealth of wedding wisdom waiting for you!
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