My husband is not a Valentine’s Day person but I am!
I know that it’s totally normal for individuals in a relationship to have their own opinions and preferences but after we got together, I realised we couldn’t be farther apart on this topic!
He’d like to eradicate the day altogether. The way he sees it, he has no interest in buying into a mass-market holiday that pressures people to spend money they don’t have on pink-and-red objects they don’t need. He hates the expectation that he should buy a present or be forced to do some big romantic gesture to prove himself.
Me, on the other hand, It’s literally my job to celebrate love.
Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting presents or attention. I love day-dreaming about flirty texts, giant bouquets, chocolates, cocktails, and romantic dinners. Although these things may be stereotypical, they make me feel special. And it’s not just the joy of receiving; I like picking out special gifts for my husband and writing him love notes too. I love what Valentine’s day stands for.
For me, Valentine’s Day is not tied to gushy romance or obligation. I love it for its core concept. It’s about love. It’s a day to remind us how lucky we all are to have love in our lives.
So if like us, you’ve been looking forward to February 14 all year and your partner would rather die of 1,000 paper cuts than go to a fancy restaurant on V-Day, then compromise is key.
Our advice is: be honest with your wants and needs but try to see where your partner is coming from. Try to establish healthy expectations in advance to avoid disappointment on the day. We learnt this the hard way after some mega-rows. The goal is to generate feelings of love, not to get your own way.
What worked for us was meeting in the middle. Now we try to think of alternative non-traditional ways to celebrate together doing low-key things we both enjoy that don’t wreak of cheese. Our emphasis now is on making memories specific to us that feel less commercialized and more authentic.
A love note will go a long way to making your partner feel warm and fuzzy. ?
You still have time to pull this off but if you get caught out at the last minute, try this template.
(Nick name/Cute name), I feel like the (adjective) person in the world to be with you.
You’re my best friend, confidant, my biggest supporter and my favourite person.
You are (adjective), (adjective), (adjective) and I am so (adjective) to have met you.
From the moment that you came into my life, I (action).
I can still remember that very first moment that I saw you, (how you met).
You make me feel (adjective), I can’t imagine my life without you.
I promise to (verb) you and (verb) you forever.
I love you and I can’t wait to call you my husband/wife soon.
Sign your letter with an extra bit of romance. Consider spraying it with a touch of your perfume or aftershave, and then sealing it with a kiss. Put it in a pretty envelope, write your loved one’s name on the front, and leave it in a place where they’ll be sure to discover it.
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