Whether you normally bawl at the drop of a hat or can’t even shed a tear during The Notebook, there’s a good chance that you might cry on your wedding day.
So many couples confide in me (as their celebrant) that they are worried about crying during the ceremony, as they feel it’s a bit embarrassing. I disagree completely. There ain’t no shame or embarrassment in crying on your wedding day. Shedding a few tears just shows that you understand how important this milestone really is.
Weddings are inherently emotional events, filled with love, joy, and nostalgia. It’s a day when two people publicly declare their commitment to each other, surrounded by their loved ones. In such a momentous occasion, it’s natural for emotions to run high.
The reason for the tears is usually a mix of happiness, letting go and moving on to another stage of life. You’re expressing your love in front of others, and celebrating your relationship—that can certainly get tears to flow in even the most hardened personality! I’ve seen so many dudes swear to me in ceremony planning meetings that they won’t cry, only to bawl on the day, and I love it.
You know what’s seriously cool about shedding a tear at weddings? It’s like tapping into this raw, genuine emotion that connects us all. It’s a reminder of the crazy love we share and the awesome human experience we’re all a part of.
The bit I love the most: when you start tearing up, chances are, others will too. It’s like this contagious wave of feels that sweeps through the crowd. Trust me, you won’t be crying solo.
In fact, I reckon you’re giving your guests a real gift. Think about it—how often do you get to let it all out in a safe, open space? Your wedding’s the ultimate emotional playground, where everyone can let loose and feel alive.
So, when those tears start flowing, embrace ’em. They’re not a sign of weakness; they’re a symbol of pure joy, a farewell to the past, and a big ol’ hello to the next chapter of your life. It’s all part of the magic that makes weddings so special.
Tears at weddings are not just tears—they’re the overflow of joy that fills your heart to the brim. It’s like your emotions just can’t be contained, and they spill out in tears of happiness. Those tears? They speak volumes about the love between the couple and the significance of the moment.
And you know what else? Crying at weddings isn’t just about joy; it’s also about letting go of the past and embracing change. It’s like saying goodbye to the old and diving headfirst into the new adventure together. It’s bittersweet, leaving behind what’s familiar but also exciting to step into the unknown.
So, when you shed those tears, it’s like shedding your old skin and embracing a fresh start. It’s a moment of release and renewal, honoring the past while eagerly embracing the future. That’s the beauty of crying at weddings—it’s a beautiful transition, marking the start of something new and wonderful.
There has normally been a huge build-up to the wedding. So much running around and last-minute logistics that you don’t have time to think about the emotional element of agreeing to devote your life to someone. When the processional music starts, that’s normally the first chance you have had to actually be still, breath and feel, and it can hit you like a ton of bricks. My advice is to keep your eyes focused on your partner and LEAN IN to whatever emotions bubble up.
If you and your partner have written your own personalised vows, this portion of the ceremony may cause you (and pretty much everyone in attendance) to cry during your wedding. A vow is a promise, and this exchange is all about promising to love and support your partner through good times and bad—so it’s bound to get pretty weepy when you’re reading your vows or listening to your partner’s. If you’re worried about tripping over your words in between sobs, remember that it’s okay to get emotional—it means that your words are honest and heartfelt. Also, the more you practice your vows the easier reading them will be, even if you do start crying. My advice is also to have a good mix of heartfelt vows and funny vows to break things up. It’s important to have the light and the shade.
All celebrants do the same thing in a legal sense. It doesn’t matter which celebrant you book, they are going to marry you. So what differentiates the BEST CELEBRANTS from the rest? Their impact is in how they make you feel, the experience they create for you and your guests. It’s a challenge to describe, an intangible quality that enables them to read the crowd and elevate the vibe. Not all celebrants have the skills to tell your love story in an engaging and authentic way. It’s a fine line between boring and over-the-top. The best celebrants know how to create a space for you and your guests to FEEEEEEEEEL a range of emotions during the love story.
Weddings mix tradition and superstition, and tears are just part of the package. Some cultures think they’re lucky signs for a happy marriage, while others see them as a bad omen for the future.
Italians and Greeks reckon tears are all about love and making babies, bringing on the good vibes. But in Japanese and Chinese traditions, crying’s a no-go—supposed to bring on the bad juju.
But you know what? Every couple I marry…… they’re all about the feels. Most people nowadays see tears as raw expressions of love, no matter what the superstitions say.
Crying during your wedding is entirely natural and can even add to the beauty and authenticity of the moment. Here are some tips to help you navigate those tears with grace:
Why hold back? Let those tears flow—it’s all part of the ride. Your wedding day’s a big deal, filled with love and joy, so soak it all in.
No need to play tough. Feel it all, from the happy tears to the nostalgic ones. It’s your moment, after all—let the emotions roll.
When the waterworks start, lock eyes with your partner. Hold their hand tight and share the moment. Trust me, it’ll bring you even closer.
If you find yourself getting too emotional, don’t be afraid to use humour to lighten the mood. Crack a joke, share a funny memory, or simply laugh at the situation.
If you’re the teary type, no sweat. Practice some deep breaths, visualise staying cool as a cucumber—whatever helps you stay chill when the feels hit.
Last but not least, stash some tissues or a hanky in your pocket. You never know when the waterworks will start, so be ready.
Hey, listen up! On your big day, I’m all for letting those emotions rip—whether you’re shedding tears of joy or busting out laughing. Just remember, everyone’s different, and that’s cool. Not shedding tears doesn’t make the moment any less special—it’s all about doing you.
And hey, if you get something in your eye, no worries! With a top-notch photographer that little mishap could turn into a killer photo op!
In the end, crying at your wedding? It’s totally fiiiiiinnnnnne! It’s all about sharing the love and excitement in the air. So, don’t hold back—embrace the feels, soak up every second, and let your heart lead the way. Your tears? They’re just another way of showing how deep your love runs. Here’s to love, laughter, and living happily ever after!
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