These cuties got married at Leogate Estate in January 2020, over 18 months ago. I’m finally getting around to posting about their wedding ?
Looking at their photos triggered so many memories from the day. Lots of little details came flooding into my mind……….
These two had wanted to get married outside but the rain gods were not on their side that day. The couple was disappointed of course, but they took it in their stride and it didn’t stop them from being in the moment and enjoying themselves.
We opened up the floor-to-ceiling doors in the function room at Leogate Estate, which created a beautiful aspect. We were a teensy bit tight on space so the couple signed on an oak wine barrel instead of a table.
Steph wore a stunning dress with a sexy lace back that had a wide floor span (is there a word for that?). It looked beautiful spread out over the carpet. Maybe it’s good that it didn’t get mucky or grass stained outside for the ceremony.
I acknowledged the Worimi people who hold the memories, the traditions, the culture and the hopes of Indigenous Australia and I thanked them for preserving the beautiful place that we celebrated on that day.
The couple wrote heartfelt and witty personalised vows that gave the crowd all the feels and had them oohing and aaahhhing in all the right places, and for many, reaching for tissues.
It was important to Steph & Troy that those around them believe in their love too. So all the guests were encouraged to show their support for their marriage by participating in some community vows. It was sweet to see how enthusiastically everyone answered my three little questions.
I think it was the first time I wore flats to a wedding because I didn’t want to tower over the couple.
It’s funny the things you remember!
At their wedding at Leogate Estate, Stephanie & Troy’s wedding vows were so touching…
even the cake was in tiers ? (Forgive me! I couldn’t help myself)
Actually, about 98% of my couples do write their own vows……… with a little help from my Vow Writing Kit.
By following the same framework, the vows normally end up the same length and tone. I can pretty much guarantee that using the same structure means they’ll always work well together. Just to be sure, I run my eye over them and give my couples some suggested tweaks (if they want my feedback). ✍️
Then I print the vows into some cute little vow cards and hand them to them on the day so they don’t need to worry about running around looking for a printer at the last minute. ?️
I gave them some tips for delivering their vows too. They made great students and took on board everything I suggested. (Maybe because Stephanie is a teacher!)?
Stephanie & Troy used a tried and tested method of deciding who would go first on the vows: Paper, Scissors, Rock. I think Scissors won it on this day. ✂️
Their vows made a huge impact. Would you look at the size of those grins! And they had specifically asked their friend to capture it on her phone so they could watch them back later.? Clever!
And of course, I jumped out of the way, because as much as I love my couples and I’m invested in their vows, I don’t need to be in the vicinity when it comes show-time. ?? You’ll normally find me off to the side with a tear in my eye.
Afterward, they sealed them into a box with a bottle of their favourite wine ? to be read again on their first anniversary. Cuuuuuuuuttee! ?
I talk about love during every ceremony, especially in this Leogate Estate wedding (well, obviously, it wouldn’t be much of a wedding without it!), but I try not to repeat myself in every ceremony. Thankfully there are almost infinite ways to talk about the L Word.
How I choose to describe it in every ceremony is based on the conversations I’ve had with that couple. Some people believe in destiny and soul mates. Others have a more pragmatic view of relationships: maybe you define marriage as being able to annoy your best friend for the rest of your life. Whatever way you define love, that’s how I’ll describe it, so that it feels authentic to you.
When Steph and Troy got married, Steph (who is a primary school teacher) asked her students to write down WHAT LOVE IS. Gosh, they came up with some cute answers: so cute that Steph framed them and used them as centerpieces. An adorable and unique idea!