Getting married can feel like STEPPING OFF THE EDGE.
Whether you’re aware of it or not, you both bring expectations into marriage. When those expectations are not met, whether it’s because they’re unrealised, unspoken, unrealistic, or some combination of the three, some sort of conflict will usually ensue.
Newlyweds arguing. Does that seem like an oxymoron?
This ain’t no APRIL FOOL. It happens…a lot!
While it might depend on how long you define the newlywed period, we usually associate newlyweds with the honeymoon phase – that blissful time after the wedding when everything seems carefree and happy. You see each other as pretty much perfect, and hearts float around you as you gaze at each other adoringly. Okay, that might be a bit cliché – and not very realistic.
The truth is, the first years of marriage are often quite challenging. As you start your life together and continue to get to know all of the different facets of each other, new issues pop up that may not have had the opportunity to reveal themselves before.
Although the true cause for the discontent can sometimes be hard to pinpoint, avoid the temptation to brush it aside. It’s a great opportunity to learn more about each other and yourself as you explore your expectations and make adjustments. The ability to discuss expectations is another one that will pay dividends throughout your marriage, not just early on.
Arguing as newlyweds is common. After all, you’re still learning about each other, which you’ll hopefully continue to do as you grow together throughout your marriage. The goal here isn’t to avoid these arguments – quite the opposite! The conversations that flow out of them can actually help you and your partner explore some really important topics that will have a significant impact throughout your marriage.
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